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I also got the same advice about A’s hair (which looks similar to Lilly’s) with regards to the bangs. It’s not something I’d ever considered (I haven’t had bangs in probably 30 years), but it’s a really good point. So I’m going to let it go and just start using headbands and clips to hold them back. If she decides she wants bangs someday, then great. But for now, I don’t want to already start locking myself into having to cut her hair every couple of months!

My kids got their first haircuts between five and fifteen months and ranged from a full cut to a trim. For three of the, the bangs were the first thing that was needed.
Getting the longest hairs in front trimmed shorter does not commit you to bangs and clips are really hard with most toddlers.
But don’t cut the curls in the back. Ours never came back and I still miss them.

Our girl is 23 month and has light hair and it’s growing so slowly. We have started putting a tiny ponytail on the top of her head to pull back her bangs. I def don’t want to deal with bangs

I would also try to avoid bangs, as it just perpetuates the problem of hair hanging over the eyes every 2-3 months (my daughter’s hair grows really slowly and is really fine). I use elastic bands and hair clips, and she now has a bob haircut, which looks super cute. Her twin brother needs a real haircut every 4-6 weeks, and his hair is super thick! It’s crazy how different two babies/toddlers can be.

We just brushed her hair off to the side, so her part was off the side of her head. Then it wasn’t in her face. She didn’t get her first hair cut till she was almost 3. Then we just cut it again at 4.

I waited as long as possible for both of my boys’ first haircut. It was fairly traumatic, lol. With my oldest, he had these beautiful loose curls and once I cut them, they were gone! So, when it came around for my youngest to get a haircut (he’s 22 months old and he was starting to look like Krusty the Clown), I almost cried as I cut his hair a couple weeks ago. All those beautiful, tight, springy curls… fortunately, it looks like his hair will remain at least somewhat curly. He’s got such gorgeous curls. I hope they stay!
So I hear you. The first haircut can be a very emotional experience. I’m pretty emotional and sentimental, though.

I did keep the curls from both of the boy’s first haircuts. I bought a super cute wooden box from Etsy and had it customized with their name and “first curls.” That helped a little.

Now that my oldest is 4 1/2, his haircuts are not a big deal, but he hasn’t had that many. He looks good with longer hair and I usually just cut about an inch off all over once his hair starts getting into his eyes and his ears.

I’m going to play the youngest’s haircuts by ear for now. He’s already starting to look like Krusty again, but I just DO NOT WANT TO CUT HIS HAIR AND HAVE HIM LOSE THOSE AMAZING CURLS!

Sigh… good luck, Mama. Your girls would look super cute in baby headbands or little clips, by the way, so if you want to put off their first haircut for awhile, experiment with those. Etsy has tons of cute ones (even my shop has a few), and you can find generic ones almost anywhere.

I also agree with the comments to try brushing the hair off to the side to avoid bangs. Bangs can be so annoying!

I look forward to hearing about what you decide!

My daughter is 9 months old (just slightly younger than your girls). She was born with a lot of hair and it has grown A LOT! We have been doing a ponytail on top of her head ever since the hair in the eyes became a problem. I’m hoping to keep it this way and wait until it’s all long enough for a full haircut. I do not want to keep up with cutting her bangs right now. I love her ponytail and it’s even long enough now that we do pigtails some days. Adorable!

I’ve never heard the old wives’ tale about the lighter the hair the slower it grows, but it was true for our kids. E & F’s hair is super light blonde. They were born with just a tiny bit of strawberry blonde fuzz, and they didn’t need a haircut until they were almost 2 years old. Graham came out with quite a bit of dark hair and we made it until he was past one, but it really needed to be cut before that.

Unlike with girls, we have to get the boys’ hair cut every 4-6 weeks and honestly, it’s not at all fun, so even though I don’t have a girl yet, I would go the non-bangs route, just to avoid that! Plus, that first hair cut makes them look so much older suddenly.

I sorely remember having bangs when I was little and how long it took to grow them out. We keep going back and forth about trimming our 3.5 year old girl’s long hair because it’s a little tough in the back. It’s down to her bum, but only the very back. We used clips and then a braid in the front. She finally uses headbands now too. I definitely wouldn’t trim such a little baby’s hair! It’s so sweet when it really comes in

I wouldn’t do it. My daughters both had baby curls and they did keep them as they grew older. My almost 3 year old hasn’t had a haircut. Just do a small fountain pony or a clip, bangs never go away. I had bangs from early babyhood until I finally sucked it up and grew them out at 13. Once you start it’s hard to stop. Let her have messy baby hair, it’s beautiful and cute.

My DD was born with a full head of hair and we didn’t cut it until after she turned 3! I mostly wanted to avoid bangs, but I also was just fond of her long hair. We dealt with it by giving her a little “whale spout” and putting it on a tiny ponytail on top of her head for most of her first year. Eventually, it was long enough to wear down again, or be put in a normal ponytail.

DD is 22 months, and still hasn’t gotten a haircut, and I’m holding off for as long as possible! Right now we use clips, and little pony tails to keep the bangs out of her eyes. They are getting long, but I don’t care for bangs, so I don’t want DD to have them! personal choice!

I’m camp no haircut. My older girl got her first trim at 2.5 and by 5 had had probably had about 5 trims. She decided to lop her hair off and donated a significant length to charity. Her hair brushed her shoulders post chop. Our younger is now 2.5 and hasn’t had a cut. She wants her hair up in pigtails daily. My girls both sported a whale spout to keep their hair off their faces.

Personally, I don’t want to deal with the maintenance of bangs for my girls, so I’ve avoided them.

I’d also say wait it out with small ponies or clip back. My almost 4 year old has curly hair and has never had a haircut yet either. It’s reddish blonde, fine, thin hair and grew very slow. If we cut her some bangs, they are more work in the long run to keep up.

My LO has fast growing but thin hair. The only thing that worked to keep hair out of her eyes as an infant was a headband, but she stopped tolerating them. So I ended up trimming her bangs multiple times until her hair got thick enough to use those tiny rubber bands for a little top pony.

A plus of all the trims is that she saw them as normal and still doesn’t resist them. Though she doesn’t have bangs anymore, I do trim the back regularly now since it looks weird and unkept when it is long, being so thin.

I guess I’m just practical about her hair. It really doesn’t make me emotional.

It’s only a big deal if it’s a big deal to you. Don’t let other people put their feelings onto you. Haircut wasn’t a big deal for me. I did the bangs, because hair in the face is annoying and my kid only started tolerating clips and things around 3 years old. I take her for a real haircut maybe 2x a year and I just cut her bangs myself every few months. And like Iced Tea said, there have been so many trims that LO views it as normal with minimal fuss.

We did a little barrette clip once her hair started getting in her eyes. Once she started yanking out the clip we graduated to a little pony on the top of her head that works really well. It’s really cute, looks like Bam-Bam’s hair! You can clip a bow to it if you want. It didn’t make sense to me to cut her hair now as it would just need to grow out in the future or stay short forever.

@MamaG: lol at the whale spout description! Hadn’t thought of it like that!

We did our first cut around 18months. Her hair was a lot like lily’s. We did single hair elastic straight up for a while until it was getting too long. Then we cut bangs. They are so cute. I love them. We did ask the hair dresser to be careful with the curls and they are still around but I think they will disappear once her hair gets longer.

We did a little whale spout on top of her head once it was long/thick enough to use the tiny elastics. She’s still never had a full haircut at 3.5, I just trim it up every six months. We did her first trim when she was around 18 months because she had one section that was two inches longer than the rest and it just looked unkempt.

I am going through this right now with my 19 month old! Its been too long for awhile and she won’t keep elastics or clips in her hair so its in her eyes all the time! I really don’t want to give her bangs but I don’t know what else to do. She also has curls in the back which I have no intention of touching. These are girl problems for sure. With my son I had no problem cutting his hair. He also has stick straight hair like my husband so there wasn’t anything too exciting about it!

Thank you so much, everyone! So many great points here and lots to think about.

Ha! We still haven’t cut our three year old’s…

We didn’t cut our daughter’S hair until she was 3.5 years. Bangs are so much maintenance and so we just used a little clip until it could go behind her ears.

As the person who regularly trims my daughter’s bangs, I don’t think it’s that big of a hastle. I do it once a month or so, and it takes less than a minute.

I’m not cutting R’s hair anytime soon. I comb it to the side and put a clip in it. I want to wait until it’s all a bit longer so that the first time she gets a haircut she can get it cut and styled at the same time.

The pressure to make your child beautiful starts really early, and it infuriates me. No, thank you – I’ll cut my child’s hair so that it isn’t getting in her way, and we don’t have to fight about keeping a clip in all the time. I’d far rather my child enjoy her life without worrying about her hair than start telling her (before she’s even 1!!!) that beauty is worth all that hassle.

That being said, my mother (who would also call herself a feminist) gave me this crap. I told her firmly where to take it.

@sarac: I’m with you. My husband won’t let me cut our daughter’s hair (which is really long at two years old and hangs in her eyes a lot). I tell him he better have the same anti-haircut reaction if we have a boy next. I understand that it’s not just an asthetics thing but also one of the last baby firsts that people react to but very few people let these emotions get in the way of cutting their boys hair. Thankfully our daughter is into ponys these days so right now we’re at a standstill.

That being said, for baby Lilly’s case her hair doesn’t look too long or unkempt so I would prob let it keep growing longer.

Dd is 27 months and just had her first haircut. Everyone had been giving me a hard time about her hair being in her eyes, so after a lot of deliberatation decided for bangs. Also cut off a little in the back mainly to even things up. I will say she looks so much older with a haircut.