Remember when first birthdays weren’t a big deal in American culture? Your parents and grandparents put some cake in front of you, let you go to town, and called it a day. Maybe you got a few presents, but there probably weren’t invitations or many decorations. Life was simple “back in the day.”
Now first birthday parties are huge. Heck, I started pinning things for Liam’s before he was six months old! I guess I just assumed we’d have a big first birthday party for him because that’s what most of our friends do; however, the closer it gets, the more Mr. TTT and I are thinking we might want to keep this celebration small. We might even have two separate celebrations — one at Mr. TTT’s parents’ ranch (where we also got married) and one at our house, as a way to include more people without it being one big overwhelming event.
Regardless of how many people we invite, here are some of my ideas for decor, food, and activities because, even if it’s small, I do love to plan a party!
Invitations
The first thing I like to do when planning a party is to select the invitation. Then, I build the color palette and decor around the invitation. I know I want something simple and fun without any pictures, as we will be taking professional photos only a week before his birthday. Here are a few of my favorites:
The one problem we may have with ordering invitations is if we have two small parties, we would have to order two sets with different dates and addresses. Sites like minted have minimum quantities of 15 and one of the parties would need less than 10 invitations, meaning we’d pay for a bunch of invites we wouldn’t need (and they are pricey!). Because of this, I will probably either make them myself or ask someone to design them for me and print them at home.
Theme/Decor
When I first started thinking about Liam’s first birthday a few months ago, I liked the idea of a ball theme. I knew I wanted to have a kiddie pool filled with ball pit balls at the party because I knew it would be fun for Liam and the other babies around his age that might be in attendance. However, I realized that I’d rather not have a set theme and instead just go with a classic birthday party “theme” if it can even be called that. Think party hats, streamers, balloons, and cake in fun, bright colors. Here is some of my inspiration I’ve been pinning:
Activities
Since lots of our friends have babies and toddlers, I’d like to have some activities that they can participate in with Liam. I feel like first birthday parties can sometimes be too much about the adults and not enough about the birthday boy or girl because they are so young. As I mentioned above, I plan on filling a kiddie pool with balls to create a mini ball pit (this will also be our present to Liam as he can play in it long after the party is over). He also has a fold out tunnel that I’d like to put out in the grass for the little ones to crawl through. The other day, we discovered that he loves it when we put him in his jumperoo outside (we hang it from our covered patio) and, though he’ll probably be walking and not interested in it when the party comes around, his younger friends who aren’t yet walking might love it. We also have a small plastic outdoor jungle gym type thing that was handed down to us and it has two slides, so we’ll probably set that up, as well.
Food
Mr. TTT has mentioned that he’d like to man the grill for the party, so I was thinking we could do a burger bar and offer many different “patty” choices like beef, turkey, chicken, and portobello mushroom along with lots of fun toppings. This way even our vegetarian friends and those with diet restrictions have yummy options. I’d also like to do some classic sides like french fries (sweet and regular potato), as well as some healthier ones like green salad and fruit. I want to have food for the babies and toddlers, too, so I’ll have to think about that – I’m open to suggestions!
Are you a fan of big first birthday parties or do you prefer to keep them small?
nectarine / 2085 posts
We opted for a small party and will likely continue to do small family parties for a while. Your photos are cute, though!
hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25556 posts
I like your bright colors theme!
We’re keeping ours small. I think a big party is for the parents, not the baby, because the baby won’t remember it! I liked the good old days of parents and grandparents and cake and that is what we’re planning on doing this year.
blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts
The pics are lovely, but I am not a big fan of massive parties for tiny kids — let’s be honest, the kid doesn’t know what the heck is going on — unless there’s something cultural at work. We had a very small family party and will likely continue to do so for at least a couple years. I also don’t think these extravaganzas are necessarily the norm — it’s just the distorted reality of the blogosphere!
Selfishly, I’m also not going to set such a precedent from a young age!
GOLD / nectarine / 2884 posts
I love the pics! I think we will do something small too. We just can’t afford to do nice things/food/etc. if there are too many people! I am splurging on the cake and getting a “venue” other than home so I don’t have to clean! Well probably rent a rec building here in town for fifty bucks or have it at my mom’s since she has a guest house that no one lives in.
GOLD / nectarine / 2884 posts
@Mrs. Yoyo: I totally agree! I am all for people having massive parties if they just want to celebrate the achievement of getting through the year, but to me that’s money that could be splurged elsewhere, you know? My splurge money is dear to me so there’s no way we’d do without other luxuries/vacations, etc., to have a bash. And the kid will have zero recollection of it!
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
We kept ours just for family who live in the area and my parents who flew in. Since it was in December, we had to be inside and even with just a handful of people it was crowded! M is a very outgoing baby so he loved it. A few moms in my due date group have babies who are easily overstimulated and they ended up crying through their entire huge parties. I definitely think you’ve got to take your baby’s personality into account when you plan a birthday party! Big first parties aren’t common at all around us though, so I didn’t feel like M was missing out. He had a blast
In re: two sets of invitations, you may want to try to find something you like on Etsy. A lot of sellers have printable files that they’ll customize for you. I’m sure they’d be happy to give you two files to print with just different dates and locations on each.
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
I love your theme.
pomelo / 5866 posts
Love the food options! I never liked big until I did big and it was fun!! Of course, this year we are doing medium small. We’ll go big again one day.
grapefruit / 4669 posts
I think birthday party is a great theme! I’m kind of a minimalist and don’t think we’ll do a huge first b-day party either. Love the colorful pins!
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@mediagirl: I agree! It’s just so hard for us because many of our friends are like family and if we invite this person, we have to invite that person… it gets out of hand so quickly!
@Mrs. Yoyo: I agree that a lot of it is for the parents, which is why we are trying to have some activities he will enjoy. Most of our friends have huge parties for their kids, so it’s actually very common in our area, apparently!
@Mrs. Sketchbook: I am the queen of cheap. I will have to do a budget breakdown after the party – I mean, crepe paper streamers and mylar balloons for decor?? How much cheaper could I get?!?
@Mrs. Stroller: One of those is an etsy seller (top right)! I actually already designed one based on the one on the top left and might make a few tweaks, then print them myself or upload them to a printing website. It was actually a lot easier to design it than I thought it would be and that will save me so much money.
@808love: I counted up the number of invites we will send and it’s around 20. Some of them are for single people and some are families. It won’t be huge, but it will be close friends and in-town family, which for us turns out to be quite a few people.
Oh, we will have it at home, too. We have a yard, so hopefully the weather is nice and we can have the whole thing outside.
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Those squeeze pouches of applesauce and such were such a hit at our 1-year-old’s party. Kids could suck them without a spoon and they weren’t crazy messy.
Have a great party…big or small. Sounds fun!
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@justang: great idea! I will definitely have to pick up some of those.
blogger / pomelo / 5400 posts
@mrs. tictactoe: That’s awesome that you’re going to plan some kid-friendly stuff
I didn’t mean to apply big parties are inherently bad, either … I’m just puzzled by some I see that look like giant photo ops. However, I’m also lazy, so that probably colors my perspective
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@Mrs. Yoyo: Haha, I totally agree. I’m also lazy, but love planning parties, so I’m trying to find a happy medium where everyone who is important to our family is included without it being crazy and over the top.
blogger / apricot / 366 posts
@mrs. tictactoe: I always feel like you’re reading my mind (or, you know, your baby is a month older than mine so we’re often on the same track!). I am just starting to plan Baby H’s party! Love seeing your ideas, and cannot believe our babies will be 1 soon!!
grapefruit / 4731 posts
wow we just sent out our baby’s 1st bday party invites today! ^_^ we are keeping it small but small for us is less than 20 people… which is small compared to his 100+ red egg and ginger party (his one month bday)
you just got to do what fills right for you! i bet it will turn out wonderful. ^_^
blogger / apricot / 366 posts
Also, I guess I could answer your question and add: we are going to do something small in our small house. Immediate family plus a few close friends, and about 4 kids who are Baby H’s age or younger. We’ll incorporate some Korean tradition but otherwise keep it pretty low key.
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@Mrs. Hopscotch: It’s so fun to compare notes since our babies are so close in age!
honeydew / 7968 posts
Didn’t want a party, but I feel I should, since its for 2 babies and I didn’t want to regret not doing anything. And celebrating them, since we waited so long for them and was a tough and rough journey.
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Thank you featuring my invite. I actually designed it for my daughter’s first birthday in another color scheme.
We did have a big bash BUT I just felt the need to celebrate more than her first year since we struggled with infertility for 5 years until she came. so…. we went for a bigger party. I did everything myself. You can see our album here. http://bit.ly/YeK9O4
blogger / pomegranate / 3201 posts
@mariana: I love that party! And your daughter is adorable