Will recently turned fifteen months old and, as an official toddler, is shedding many of the things that made him a baby. Most notably (beyond the speaking and running!), he has begun to make some natural transitions when it comes to sleep – and we’ve begun the process of forcing some other ones that will, in the end, be best for him. I wanted to share what the internet said about some of these transitions, plus what my pediatrician recommended at Will’s fifteen month appointment last week.
T H E B O T T L E
What the Internet Says: Transition from a bottle between 12-18 months; the earlier the better. It’s important to do it because of teeth and palette issues – too long on a bottle, and it can affect baby’s mouth structure and cause more tooth decay due to prolonged interaction between the sugars in milk and teeth. You can drop the bottle suddenly (cold turkey) or transition over time; cold turkey is often fastest but hardest.
What the Pediatrician Says: Drop it cold turkey. Do it over a holiday so it can be consistent, and find another way to get milk. Try regular, non-breakable cups and sell it as exciting (“look at the big boy drinking out of his big boy cup!”). Feel free to offer milk at nap and bedtime, just not in a bottle. Prolonged negative effects are more pronounced as time wears on, so before 18 months is a must.
My Thoughts: I knew it was coming sooner rather than later – and we should have tried to drop it sooner. As it is, we’re in the flux of this right now. We made the mistake of not introducing milk in a sippy/straw cup alongside water and thus, Will only likes milk out of a bottle…or his ‘night-night’ as he calls it. It was only in the last month or so that he began to call milk this, and, I think, attach the bottle the idea of milk. I think if we had transitioned off the bottle sooner – say, right around twelve months – we’d be having better success right now. We’ve gotten a few ounces in him via a spill-proof cup (no spout or straw), but we’ve had to increase his yogurt intake to ensure he is getting enough calcium and protein. I’m hoping this is just more water under the bridge of challenges in a few weeks – and in the mean time, any advice from mamas whose babes associated milk just with bottles and struggled is welcome!
T H E S L E E P S A C K / B L A N K E T
What the Internet Says: Blankets can be introduced around twelve months, but also, if advice is coming from a place that sells them, buy these sleep sacks forever!
What the Pediatrician Says: Blankets at 15 months is a great time to introduce them. Baby likely won’t ‘get’ it fully for a few weeks, but will learn quickly. This will support transition to a toddle bed in coming months.
My Thoughts: What about his poor cold feet?! I’ve been waiting for the day to give Will his Aden and Anais dream blanket – but I can’t get past the worry that he won’t keep himself covered with the blanket during the night, and as it’s coming on winter, he’ll get cold. I’m also concerned about ruining his currently good night sleep – won’t a new distraction lead to setback? Despite these concerns, we’ll probably give a blanket in coming days – he’s pretty much busting out of his sleep sacks as it is!
N I G H T T I M E O R D E R O F O P E R A T I O N S
What the Internet Says: Beginning when baby is 9-12 months old, slowly move the nighttime bottle earlier in the bedtime process so that baby doesn’t fall asleep on the bottle and develop an association of bottle/milk=sleep. Try bottle, bath, cuddles, crib.
What the Pediatrician Says: Try to not let baby fall asleep on the bottle. Now that the bottle is being stopped cold turkey, you’ll see if you need to adjust the order, but hopefully kiddo will use self-initiated tactics to help himself fall asleep naturally and by himself.
My Thoughts: Man, oh man. The first nights of no bottle were rough emotionally. We’d definitely NOT followed the internet’s advice to prevent a bottle/sleep association – Will had reliably fallen asleep with a bottle for naps and bedtime for a solid five months until we stopped the bottle cold turkey last week. We didn’t change anything about our routine – bath time, books, bed – but the missing bottle was pronounced! Lots of asking for ‘night night’ and clamors for more books. Eventually, Will has settled down despite a lack of bottle and gone to sleep pretty well. He is definitely going into his crib more awake than he was previously, but a stuffed lamb and lovey blanket are helping him, I think.
T W O T O O N E N A P S
What the Internet Says: Somewhere between 12-24 months, baby will begin to fight a nap – usually the morning nap – and you’ll see signs that it’s time to transition to one nap per day. You can slowly transition in 15 minute increments. Be prepared for days when two naps are still needed and one nap isn’t very long. Eventually, it will work itself out.
What the Pediatrician Says: It’s bound to happen at some point. Try slowly moving naptime back. Don’t stress too much; baby will figure it out for himself when he’s ready. Follow cues for tiredness and as long as he’s getting between 10 and 14 hours of sleep every 24 hours, you’re great.
My Thoughts: Whew. For about three weeks now, Will has not actually slept for his SECOND nap of the day. In these three weeks, maybe three times has he slept for about 45 minutes. I was waiting for daycare to let me know it’s time to transition – but they haven’t and I’m beginning to think they’re reluctant to move to one nap because Will is the ‘oldest’ baby at daycare and they have a good schedule/rhythm. We’ve been trying one nap on our own, and it’s going ok – Will isn’t sleeping a good 2-3 hours yet in one long stretch- it’s typically only 90 minutes. I’m confident it will regulate soon – I mean, both the internet and Will’s doctor are telling me to trust the process!
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What did baby to toddler transitions look like for you? Any advice for my milk-resistant kiddo?
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
Thank you for writing this post!! All these transitions have been on my mind since DD is turning 1 next week.
Bottle/milk
We’ve introduced WCM, almond milk AND coconut milk now not in a bottle. She will drink but not a ton. I also find the idea of mixing formula/WCM kinda weird, but we might start that next week. I think my plan is to transition from formula first, then tackle bottle. She isn’t very attached to a bottle though so I’m hoping it will be easy..
Blanket
I actually wanted to try to put a sleep sack on DD (never have), but I guess that’s going backwards?! She is in a fleece sleeper and we will have climate control space heater later. She def kicks off the blanket as she rolls around.
Night time routine
Thankfully after DD was no longer nursed to sleep, she never fell asleep from the bottle so no changes for us!
2 to 1 nap
I’ve def been freaking out about this one! Always afraid I won’t be able to catch the signs/do it right. But I guess it’s all trial and error….? I’d love to see a more detailed post about this, once Will is totally transitioned!
apricot / 490 posts
We have used a blanket since around 12 months and introduced special nighttime socks that go with her sleepers. This keeps her feet nice and warm and we don’t have to continually buy sleepsacks for the rest of her childhood.
nectarine / 2821 posts
I like the way you wrote this post! Actually I always like your posts
guest
My 2 year old still uses a sleep sack and sleeps in his crib… We probably won’t transition to a toddler bed until closer to three, If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it!
cantaloupe / 6131 posts
DS is just shy of 15 months, so they are right at the same point!
Bottle/milk
We stopped bottles altogether by 1 year except for a 2-3 ounce snack bottle first thing in the morning he took like laying down in his play pen while I fixed his breakfast. After that, we’ve just offered him sippies of milk with meals, after naps, and anytime he snacks and aim for 12-16oz a day, plus some yogurt or cheese every day. It was painless and he never missed his bottles at all, but my son was frustrated with bottle feeds early and fought them all the time beginning around 9 months.
Blanket
DS thrashes around too much in bed to give up his sleepsacks. We get the Vaenait baby ones that have feet openings and either put them on over footie PJs or just put some socks on him before bed. At 13 months we did introduce this sherpa buddy thing thats a flat stuffed animal pillow plus matching toddler sized velvet/sherpa blanket. They sold them at Costco for $10 so I bought 2 and wash them every few days. I lay him down at night with his head on the pillow, tuck the blanket around him, and by the time I walk out, he’s already standing or thrashing about. But since its a warm blanket and pillow, I figure even laying next to it will help keep him warm at night and it will help him be familiar with pillows and blankets eventually.
Night time routine
We’ve given him a lovey since 4 months at sleep times so he associates chewing on that with sleep/self-soothing. My son had never really associated milk with sleep because we had him on an EASY schedule since infancy, but we started dropping the last bottle before bedtime earlier and earlier in the 11th month and just started offering him milk in a straw cup at dinner around 1 year. We brush teeth during bath time and then offer him a straw cup of water to drink while we do the bedtime books/play/wind down so he can hydrate. He’s often thirsty after bath.
2 to 1 naps
Sorry this is a novel because we had such a long tedious transition. DS started fighting his PM naps around 10 months. Until then, he had been sleeping from 10am-12pm, and then 2:30pm-4:30pm. I knew it was way too early to go to 1 nap, but he was taking micronaps or flat refusing his afternoon nap and acting like a psycho between dinner and bedtime. We can’t put him down super early bc he doesn’t sleep a blink past 12 hours no matter how tired, so I gradually cut his AM nap down, which he went down for easily and gladly slept 2 hours for. At first I moved his 10am-12pm nap to 1030am, then I capped the nap at 1 hour and woke him up at 11:30am. By 13 months, I pushed his nap to 10:45am and wouldn’t let him sleep more than 30-40 minutes. Basically, anytime he started waking early from his afternoon nap 2-3 days in a row, I started cutting his AM nap down so that he would still be tired for the PM nap. During his 13th month, the AM nap was 30-40 minutes, and the PM nap went to 90 minutes. Sometime before 14 months, he was waking from his PM nap at the 1 hour mark, so I decided it was time to try 1 nap. I made lunch earlier (11:30am) and then put him down at 12pm. He slept 2.5 hours that day so I decided it was time. Since 14 months, he’s been on 1 nap and he sleeps between 2-3 hours. I notice the early wake up days are because of pooping, so now I try to feed him at 11:30am and run him around in hopes of getting him to poop BEFORE nap. So he goes down to sleep sometime between 12-12:30pm. If he wakes up early from his nap, I generally leave him in there if he’s content to play with his stuffed animals until the 3 hour mark. We have snack when he wakes up from nap (since an earlier lunch might mean he eats a little less) and that gets him to dinner around 5 or 5:30pm.
cantaloupe / 6730 posts
I gave LO a blanket on top of the sleep sack. That way she got used to it and if she kicked it off it didn’t matter (because she was still in the sleepsack). Once she was 2, I gave her a big blanket that I tuck in under the mattress on three sides. Eventually we’ll lose the sleep sack. There’s no rush.
grapefruit / 4663 posts
Our transitions do not look like yours lol.
Bottle-we went cold turkey at 7 months to a nuby bottle transition cup and never looked back. We are getting ready to do this with LO2.
Blankets-My LO’s think sleep sacks are evil so start using a blanket from the waste down once they can roll. LO2 now needs a blankie in her hand to sleep.
Nightime – is milk/vitamin, pjs, teeth, books, bed this established about 14 mos when we weaned and hasn’t changed
Naps-my kid hates sleep we dropped to one early and a 60 minute nap is great
pear / 1852 posts
We transitioned late for some things due to circumstances, we moved and things served as a comfort because they were familiar.
To finally transition away from the bottle, we allowed he to go to bed with some water in it for a long time, then one morning she woke up and it had magically turned into a sippy. Not a bottle to be found in our house after that night.
pomelo / 5621 posts
We started using a blanket around 9 months since he was growing out of his sleep sacks and that was easier than buy more.
DS never took a bottle so we never had to deal with that and at 20 months weaned himself, so didn’t have to deal with that either. At about 10 months we started giving him WCM in a sippy cup once a day at snack time to get used to it.
We let daycare do the nap transition. When he started at 12 months he still took two naps, but the first was short and crappy. After a few weeks there they put him on one and he did great with it. It took him a few weeks longer to go to one at home and ever since he has been a nap champ.
guest
Great post! At 22 months, I feel like we’re just getting the hang of all these things.
We never did a nighttime bottle, but switching from nursing to my husband outing her down, then eventually me putting her down without nursing was a long transition. When we switched from beast milk to cows milk at daycare, they had us use a sippy cup for cows milk. Then one day I forgot the sippy cups and she was good enough with a regular cup, so we switched!
Our daycare switches them to a room with one nap at 12 months and it worked great…she finally started napping.
I bought a woolino wool toddler sleep sack, I was too nervous for blankets with a 1930s house in New England. I highly recommend it.
cantaloupe / 6669 posts
He is too cute! We did exclusively footie pajamas for a long time after the sleepsack to blanket transition because of my worries about cold toes.
She sleeps with toes out now though and no issues even when her blanket falls off.
I stressed about getting rid of the bottle and tried a few times between 12 & 15 months, really before she was ready. I felt some pressure from daycare. At about 15 months, she finally found a straw cup she liked and made the switch really easily. You’ll get there.
guest
thanks for the post. my toddler is now 17 months. all these transition tips will help me a lot.