Hi everyone! I’m so excited to be joining the Hellobee community as Mrs. Turtle! This site has been a lifesaver for me over the last year. I live in a rural area in Northern California without a big community in real life, so I have really appreciated all of the support I’ve gotten here.
A little about me: I live way up north in California, very close to the Oregon border, with my wife. I’ll call her Missus Turtle. (Thanks to Mrs. Scooter for the title.) We aren’t parents to any human children yet, though we hope to be very soon. We do have quite the menagerie of critters living with us. In the house we have four dogs, all mixed breed rescues. Outside, we have six adorable Nigerian Dwarf goats, ten chickens and two old horses. We also have two other horses who earn their keep as lesson horses in our nonprofit horseback riding program.
Missus Turtle and I have been together since May of 2012 and have been married since August 8, 2014. We met working as professional horse trainers at the same ranch, and have been lucky enough to turn our passion for horses and teaching into an exciting nonprofit program for kids. We love working with horses and kids, and are really enjoying putting our skills to good use serving the community we live in. We also spend a lot of time outdoors in our free time, hiking, camping and just enjoying the beautiful area we live in. I love to bake and she loves to cook, so we spend a lot of time in the kitchen as well, especially this time of year.
Our parenting journey started about fourteen months ago with trying to conceive using a known sperm donor. After twelve straight cycles, extensive testing and no diagnosis OR BFP, we decided to reevaluate. Both of us have felt drawn to adoption and foster care for some time, but had no real life exposure to the foster system so we weren’t sure what we would be getting ourselves into. We did know that qualified foster parents are really needed in our area, and we knew we could do a good job.
In September we decided to take the plunge and become licensed foster parents. Our intention is adoption and we hope to take in infants, but we are willing to be foster parents first. We are currently working our way through the licensing process, hoping to be fully licensed in early spring.
I plan to blog about the process of becoming a foster and adoptive parent, the challenges (and positive aspects) of working with “the system,” issues we are faced with as same sex, possibly transracial, adoptive parents, and of course the wonderful benefits of growing up with animals. I’d love to hear questions and ideas for posts as well, so don’t be shy! I certainly don’t know everything about this process but I’m learning a lot as we go.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
I’m excited for your journey through the foster system! I hope you don’t experience much discrimination. Also, more baby goats pictures please!
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
Welcome
Besides posts about fostering & adopting, I’d love for you to share some kitchen tricks and delicious recipes!
pear / 1881 posts
YAY! So glad to hear that you are now a blogger! I actually noticed it this weekend while searching through some of the old welcome boards
I cannot wait to hear more!
guest
Foster parent here! I’ve often thought of applying to write here and I have so many post ideas! I’d be interested in preparing to adopt while also supporting reunification with a parent where appropriate (required in most states, but definitely ethically required everywhere), training requirements, limitations on parenting while a foster parent, average timelines in different areas, designing a foster friendly nursery (age and gender non-specific), interactions with birth parents, open vs closed adopting in foster care specifically, the preferencing process for foster care, the process of getting “the call” for children who are not a fit for your family, training requirements, etc. etc. etc. So excited to see this represented on here!
coconut / 8079 posts
Excited to read more about your foster/adoption journey.
blogger / kiwi / 675 posts
Welcome! Excited to read about your new journey and would also love to hear about your horse program!!
apricot / 342 posts
Welcome!! I’m not the most active member in respect to comments and stuff but I’ve been a follower for about 2 years. I love seeing new faces (icons)!
I hope everything works out with a baby!!
pineapple / 12566 posts
Glad to see you blogging! I’m excited to follow your journey!
grapefruit / 4923 posts
welcome! can’t wait to learn more.
blogger / pear / 1509 posts
Thank you all for the warm welcome! I’m so excited to be here. And thank you for all of the suggestions and requests. I’m writing them all down so I have a list when I’m feeling stuck. Keep them coming!
apricot / 317 posts
Yay! A fellow foster/adopt family! Get ready for the ride of your life. My family has a child, adopted from Korea, and two children – age 3 and 6 months – from our state foster care system. Our 6 month old came to us as a newborn. And it IS possible to be placed with infants in foster care, but they always have a LOT of extra needs because of the reasons they were removed in the first place. We are hoping to adopt again, but it hasn’t happened yet. Sooo excited you are here!!!
grapefruit / 4089 posts
So glad that you took the blogger plunge! Gotta say, I am pretty envious of where you live… Stunning!
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
You live in a gorgeous place! And I love what you do for a living!
pomegranate / 3225 posts
Welcome! I am also interested in the foster system so I can’t wait to read your journey!!
wonderful olive / 19353 posts
Welcome!!
blogger / pear / 1509 posts
@Synchronicity: @snowjewelz: Thank you! We love it here and it is beautiful. There are downsides to living in such a depressed area too, but I think the natural beauty is worth it. I’ve thought a lot about the challenges and advantages raising kids here will bring. Blog post?
bananas / 9118 posts
Excellent- happy to see you over on this side of HB! Can’t wait to follow your story more!
blogger / grape / 92 posts
Welcome! It’s so exciting to see more goat-lovers
I can’t wait to learn more about your nonprofit and journey into foster care
grapefruit / 4717 posts
So happy to see you blogging! Looking forward to reading more
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6703 posts
So curious about where you live. I grew up in Crescent Cory/Gasquet and now my mom and sister live in Chico while I am down in the Bay Area.
nectarine / 2028 posts
Beautiful pictures. Welcome, welcome! So excited to read about your journey. Like you and Missus Turtle, I, too, am a horse lover. I’m envious of your (stunning!) little corner of the world!
pomelo / 5084 posts
@Mrs. Turtle: WELCOME! My wife and I have been together since 2011 and got married in Iowa in 2013 (we live in Missouri where it was not yet legal). We had our DS four weeks ago! So glad to see another same sex couple blogging here!
PS Sorry if I am being dumb but what does transracial mean?
blogger / pear / 1509 posts
@wrkbrk: Nice to “meet” you! I’ve seen your posts on the boards, congratulations on your little boy! So exciting. Transracial refers to adopting outside your own race/ethnic background. Pretty common in the foster system. .
pomelo / 5084 posts
@Mrs. Turtle: Duh! Got it.
And thank you!!
blogger / cherry / 247 posts
i can’t believe i missed this! welcome!!!!! can’t wait to read more !