The past several months have been so heart-warming and wonderful. Alternately, there have been many challenging moments filled with frustration and exhaustion. Being a stay-at-home mother to a three-year-old and an infant can be a physical and emotional tornado (as most people can understand). Being home all day, without the trappings of water-cooler chat at the office, or lunch breaks with fun co-workers can be very isolating and lonely. Your sense of autonomy is easily vanquished, and you start to forget the last time you had a funny conversation with a friend or came up with your own witty tidbits to make a peer laugh.
It’s easy to get tired and fall into a bit of a slump. But, in times like this, I take heart knowing that I am living up to my potential as best I can in this role I’ve been blessed with. Sometimes things aren’t always how I want them or would like them to be, but I know I am fulfilling my duties in this season of my life with as much humor, wit, and graciousness as I can. I am grateful. I am honored. When days are long and I’m feeling sloppy (and it’s day 4 of wearing some version of sweatpants and a formula-dribbled t-shirt), I like to remind myself about staying positive and grateful. A trick I use? I tell myself “I get to.” For example, instead of saying “I have to get up and feed the baby,” I say “I GET to get up and feed the baby.” It works on many levels and conditions, and ALWAYS forces me to turn things around by adding more spring to my step.
I have to go to the grocery store…… I GET to go to the grocery store
I have to clean the kitchen…………… I GET to clean the kitchen
I have to change the diaper………….. I GET to change the diaper
I have to go to work……………………. I GET to go to work (for those that do)
I have to make lunch for the kids…… I GET to make lunch for the kids
It’s a simple little trick that doesn’t seem like much, but makes a big impact when it’s practiced. I’m no expert at it yet, but I’m trying and I believe it will become second nature before long. See if it can change your day and give you just a little lift too.
Here’s a tender moment of Paige shampooing her brother’s hair. One of life’s rewarding moments to witness.
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9. "Free Play" Used To Be Just Play by Mrs. Hide and Seek
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persimmon / 1295 posts
Awww that photo is adorable. Thanks for your post.
I’m now waiting to “get to change my baby’s diaper when she wakes up.”
persimmon / 1379 posts
Perfect timing for this post. I have been fearing the end of daycare and the beginning of two kids with me at home…full time. But aren’t I lucky to get to have them both with me? Will need to repeat this to myself a lot in the days to come
persimmon / 1255 posts
I hear ya. It is pretty isolating sometimes being a SAHM and I have to remind myself once in a while that I “get to” enjoy watching her grow and develop everyday – something I know not every person gets the opportunity to do.
apricot / 277 posts
Such a great post! Well said!
GOLD / wonderful coffee bean / 18478 posts
Awww, what a great post and the photo is absolutely precious!! Love it!
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
i love this post and definitely need to change my thinking. it is a privilege to be able to GET TO do all the things I do!
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Great post
I wish I would “get to” go to the grocery store with my 18 month old, but there’s bills to pay and mouths to feed and we can’t do it on a single salary. You are a lucky duck!
blogger / wonderful cherry / 21628 posts
That’s really good advice
cherry / 226 posts
We are lucky! My time with LO will come to an end in a few months, he’s going to dc and I to work. These moments are precious and we are so lucky to have this time to focus on what is important in life.
pomelo / 5178 posts
Such a sweet picture.
As a new SAHM with a toddler and an infant, I can totally relate. Some days are amazing; some days are really, really hard. Overall being a SAHM is much more work than I ever thought it would be. I think it’s reminder to stay positive, even during the hard days! I’ll have to remind myself of this post next time I have a difficult day.
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
Love this post! And Loooooove your chubby wubby boy!
blogger / nectarine / 2010 posts
This is such a good idea!
I’m dying to be a SAHM, but only to one. Two seems so daunting! Of course I don’t really know what I’d do with out baby S’s daycare momma, so maybe that’s a cue to keep my day job.
GOLD / wonderful grape / 20289 posts
Holy cuteness, love the chub! And what a great post, it’s good to remember to think positive about these things, it really does make life better
GOLD / pomelo / 5167 posts
I have such admiration for SAHM. I could not do it!
My son is in daycare now as I’m home with my LO. I couldn’t do both! So you are doing a great job! Better than I would that’s for sure!