16 month update! It has been even more exhausting than ever. His attention span is shorter, he plays more furiously and his curiosity is insatiable. But he is definitely even funnier than ever! I always wondered why no one tells you that when you have a baby, you’re basically giving birth to your very own live-in comedian.
Ever since 12 months, I keep hearing these same phrases over and over again:
“That’s so good… for a boy.”
“Is he good at (insert skill)?”
“How many words can he say now?”
“Is he a good eater?”
“Is he a good sleeper?”
“Is he social?”
Honestly, I am just over these questions because my answers are always “I don’t know, he’s just a baby. He’s doing what he can and I think it’s fine.” Of course I put a happy tone in my responses but I really am over these stressful milestones. I can understand certain ones being big red flags like not grabbing or reacting correctly. But when these milestones get taken to an extreme level, I find it very stressful and that it takes the joy out of regular toddlerhood.
I spent time with a mother who was graciously boasting of her little one’s amazing milestones. When she asked me if Baby Pencil was good at puzzles in my exasperation I just said “no, he sucks at it.” (Because he does!) It was a very shocking response because I don’t know if anyone has ever not said something amazing about their child in front of her. I laughed it off but I really do think it’s OK that Baby Pencil is not some walking genius at age 15 months. Of course he’s going to suck at many things!
So here are my boastings about stuff he’s NOT great at! (I am laughing 90% of the time when he does any of these things.)