I’m obviously the same person I was before kids, but I’m still growing and learning too. Motherhood has changed me so much in the past two years. I feel like I’m simultaneously my best and worst self. Children are great magnifiers of our good and bad qualities. I react differently to situations than I used to, and my priorities have shifted to put my children first in almost every aspect of my life. Sometimes I marvel at the differences I notice in myself and Mr. Cookie since having kids, but mostly I’m too tired to think about it too much. This is a real list of the ways I’m reminded that I am a parent, first and foremost.
You Know You’re a Mom When…
1) You can say “no” to things. I used to try and make everyone happy. For example, when we’d go back to Chicago I would attempt to visit all of our groups of friends, but that has become nearly impossible when traveling with children. I still do what I can to be accommodating, but I’m not bending over backward anymore. I don’t have to be busy to decline an invitation. I can simply be uninterested or doing what is best for my little family.
2) You can leave the house less put together than ever before Let’s just say I wear a lot of ponytails and Target t-shirts. I still have trouble going in public without makeup (years of bad skin will do that to you) but I can leave the house looking pretty grungy. The funniest part is that my kids look adorable when we go out and my shirt is usually stained with baby puke.
3) You think a shower or trip to the grocery store counts as alone time. Sad but true! How did shaving my legs and buying toilet paper become luxuries? Just listening to the radio instead of kids’ music in the car makes me feel like a rebel.
4) You are super excited and invested in things you only moderately cared about before. Yes, my child needs to wear a “My First Holiday” outfit for every occasion, including “Baby’s First Arbor Day.” Yes, I need adorable photos of my children in front of pumpkins, making snowmen, hunting for eggs, and watching fireworks. Yes, our children will be
forced encouraged to watch football each Sunday and support mom and dad’s teams. EVERYTHING IS IMPORTANT. QUICK, POST IT TO SOCIAL MEDIA.