Charlie has had trouble with constipation on and off for the past 8 months. We’ve tried addressing it by making dietary changes, but over the past month the problem has just been getting worse. I fear that the problem may largely be psychological because Charlie has been on Miralax for the past week, but he’s still been having problems. I think because he has had painful stools in the past, he holds it in, thereby creating an ongoing constipation cycle.
The average toddler has a bowel movement once a day, and Charlie usually goes once every day or two, but constipation does not necessarily refer to frequency. His stools are usually hard, pellet-like, and difficult to pass, which are classic symptoms of constipation. In the past two weeks he has also started complaining about stomachaches, and has been generally cranky until he’s been able to make a bowel movement.
Common causes of constipation in toddlers include:
– too much consumption of milk/dairy
– too much consumption of constipation causing foods (white flour, white rice, apples, bananas, cooked carrots, fatty foods, sugary foods, meat)
– not enough fluids
– not enough fiber-rich foods (fruits, vegetables, whole grains)
– not enough physical exercise
– holding in stools because they are busy playing
– holding in stools to avoid pain, creating a constipation cycle
We’ve been doing all the classic things you’re supposed to do, and then some:
– eliminating almost all dairy
– diluting milk with increasing amounts of water so that he’s eventually drinking almost all water with just a little bit of milk
– increasing fluids by constantly offering water from the moment he wakes up
– encouraging him to sit on the potty and poop
– giving probiotics daily
– eliminating most constipation-causing foods
– increasing fiber-rich fruits (pears, plums, peaches, prunes), vegetables (peas, broccoli) and whole grains/bran
– offering fruit in smoothies and popsicles
– offering pear and other fruit pouches
– offering pear/prune juice
– switching from white rice to brown
We also have flax seed oil and ground flax seed, which I’m going to start giving Charlie daily. Two teaspoons of flax oil, or one tablespoon of ground flax seed added to food or a smoothie daily is supposed to help constipation. I’ve also got to figure out a way to get Charlie to eat beans!
Although I don’t think there has been definitive research on whether constipation is genetic, it definitely runs in my family. And since we’ve already tried a lot of things to address Charlie’s constipation, including using Miralax, I’ve decided to meet with a nutritionist. I can’t bear to watch Charlie suffer day after day, and I think the longer this problem continues, the more difficult it will be to solve. We probably have to do a bigger diet overhaul, but it’s been really tough since Charlie already is a very picky eater. At this point though, I think we’re going to have to do whatever it takes.
Has your LO ever battled constipation? How did you cure it?
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
Yes! I forget how old she was, but it was right after we started solids. Girlfriend didn’t go for over 10 days!!’ I ended up sticking my pinkie in her butt, sat her on her potty, and she pooped the biggest and fattest log ever! It was so sad
she still has a little fissure on her butt from it.
Now I keep her hydrated, feed her lots of fruit and she goes 3-5 times a day!
blogger / nectarine / 2687 posts
oh, gosh, it sounds awful! poor charlie!!!
cb had constipation for a little bit after we potty trained him because he was still nervous about pooping in the potty. we just gave him lots and lots of fruit and were ready to give him wheat germ, but he ended up getting better. i hope charlie’s constipation gets better…good luck with the nutritionist — keep us posted!
and @chopsuey119: that right there is true love. poor little girl!
pea / 21 posts
Oh my gosh. My daughter Ashley is always constipated. She poops every other day or every 2 days. Her doctor suggested that she goes on Miralax and we simply refuse to have her on it until we’ve tried getting her to poop naturally, with fruits and a high fiber diet. So far, it is not working. The doctor and I agree that it is psychological, but how do we help her? I feel so bad when she strains when pooping and seeing blood in her poop sometimes. Reading your post, I think I am considering a nutritionist too. Please do provide your updates on this issue, as I would love to hear how Charlie is progressing with his potty.
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
You are doing everything right!!! I’m so sorry this is an ongoing problem despite all your diligence…
And I agree with you that there is a genetic component (not necessarily with Charlie, just in general).
Hope it resolves soon!
hostess / eggplant / 11068 posts
I totally understand – I mean, I suffer from constipation as an adult so I can only imagine how hard it is for Charlie! Poor guy. As for eating beans…Maybe you can make a bean dip/hummus?
guest
We have been trying all the same things as you, and our DS has been constipated since we started him on solid foods at 6 months. He’s now almost 3, fully potty trained, and still struggles. In fact, last weekend, he ended up with hemorrhoids from straining too hard!
He is back on Miralax again, and we are putting mineral oil around his anus to try to help things slide out a bit easier. If you learn anything from the nutritionist, we’d be interested to hear what else we can be doing! Our son says he’s scared to go because it hurts. So sad!!!
guest
We did pretty much all you did, minus fruits because Little Guy won’t have it and add Miralax. I questioned my GI doctor why Miralax instead of fiber supplements or just fiber, her answer was, toddler only need 7-10g of fiber per day. Any more than that will actually make them even more constipated by bulking up the stool. Given they are still working on forming their eating habits, it’s hard to rely on food intake for proper amount of fiber. With Miralax, it never gets absorbed into the body but stays in digestive track. It sucks water into stool without bulking it up. So far it works great for us.
Our doc told us to start wean off Miralax when he is potty trained, or rather, when he can control what to do with his bowel.
Good luck!!
nectarine / 2047 posts
Not sure if you have heard these things before, but here are some tips that aren’t food related:
-Some positions on the potty make it easier to go – think feet firmly on the floor (or stool) and leaning forward. (This position is reminiscent of the deep squat that LOs do when they are having a BM and are still in diapers)
-No straining!!! Try encouraging your LO to “breathe out as they push out”. Straining will just lead to more problems later.
-No one can poop if they are stressed, so reading a book or singing a song can often help.
-If they are on the potty and can’t go after more than 5-10 minutes, have the get up and try again in a little bit.
-You can try a ‘bowel massage’. Begin on the lower belly, below and to the right of their navel. Move up, and then across. Then, move down the left abdomen and finish just above the groin area. Repeat this a few times. It will usually help move things along.
Hope this helps! Constipation is no fun whether you are a toddler or an adult!
guest
Have you ever considered trying a chiropractor that specializes in children? My 18 month old son has been seeing our chiropractor since he was a few days old. He has never had issues with constipation (he usually has a big poo after he is adjusted, especially when he was tiny!) but I know many people it has worked wonders for. It also has many other health benefits for kids as well. Good luck, poor guy.
squash / 13199 posts
I had no idea that fruits like banana and apple can cause constipation..? why is that?
pomegranate / 3643 posts
Does he like yogurt? Activia?
apple seed / 1 posts
I second the chiropractor! My nephew had really bad constipation problems when he was 6 mo – 1 yr. We had a Chiropractor friend who would adjust him every Sunday, which led to a large bowel movement almost immediately after. It only took a couple weeks of that to get him normal again.
guest
We battled it with my LO. She is extremely picky and was potty training at the time.. she would not poop in the potty because it hurt. She would hold it and go while she was sleeping – when she would go during the day it would be painful and hurt us all!! We tried miralax, but you can’t take it every day. Since she won’t eat fruits or veggies (carbs only!), we finally figured out our cure: grape juice. She drinks straight white grape juice (no water) every morning. afater that 1/2 water/1/2 apple or just water and only 1 milk per day. It worked for us!!