When you’re forty weeks pregnant, it’s almost impossible to feel attractive. The weight gain, swelling, stretch marks, acne, physical discomfort, wardrobe inadequacies and mental uncertainties all contribute to potentially feeling less than your best. I’m not dealing with this whole list, but the new 38 lbs I’m lugging around and the ambiguity of what’s to come is going a long ways towards making me feel so not pretty.
This week, I’m taking steps to combat the 40-week wall I’ve run into. Here’s a list of my strategies for feeling pretty after you wave your due-date goodbye:
Above: Me after completing steps 1-3. I really should have posted a before photo, as this is NOT how I’m been rolling the last few days.
1) Take a shower. Okay, that may seem obvious to most of you, but I’ll totally admit to skipping daily showers, especially if I’m not leaving the house. (An update – we went back for another sonogram last week, and the baby looks fine; there’s no IUGR – we’re “just having a peanut,” according to the doctor. As a result, I’m off of afternoon bed rest, but I’m done working now that I’ve hit my due date, so I’m just bumming around the house.) Although I can manage with every-other-day showers, I’m learning this week that a DAILY shower is really worth the effort.
2) Put on makeup and blow-dry hair. Again, I’m home by myself all day, and the dogs don’t really seem to care if I wear blush, but I find it does make a big impact on my mental state. I’ve been scraping my frizzy hair into a messy topknot, wearing my glasses, and squeaking by with just washing my face. When I take the time to blow-dry and flat-iron my hair, and apply just a little bit of mascara, I feel so much better about myself. I might be sporting a double chin, but at least my hair looks shiny.
3) Wear nice clothes. I have a huge maternity wardrobe (some of which I have yet to wear), but it’s just easier to pull on the same pair of stained sweatpants and Mr. Tricycle’s extra-large t-shirt. This does nothing for my self-esteem. This week I’m trying to reach for comfy but still “nice” clothes; leggings and a fitted tunic do the trick.
Above: Aren’t feet weird? Please excuse their oddness. I contemplated green polish, but thought it’d look gross, even if it was fitting.
4) Get a pedicure. A little pampering goes a long way towards making me feel less scruffy. I spent an hour yesterday getting my feet scrubbed, calves exfoliated, and nails polished. I can’t exactly see my feet, but catching the occasional glimpse of my shiny plum toes makes me smile.
5) Do something active. I’m not talking about running a marathon, but a 15-minute walk does wonders for my mental state. Fresh air puts a little color in my cheeks, clears my brain, and makes me feel like I’ve accomplished something during the day. I’ve been told, now that I’m off bed rest, to limit my exercise to chunks less than 20 minutes, but even that short time span helps me feel better about myself.
What doesn’t help? I’m trying to avoid the following, all of which make me feel less than my best: eating another cookie, looking at pre-pregnancy photos of myself, and spending excessive time in front of the mirror.
What are your strategies to for feeling pretty and boosting your self-esteem during the last few days or weeks of pregnancy?
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Don’t forget about bikini wax! Comforting to know things are still in order down below when you can’t see…
hostess / hostess with the mostess / 21100 posts
haha you look great!
i got a pedicure towards the end, but didn’t feel up to making myself look pretty. I was so huge and uncomfortable..
at almost 35 weeks, I’ve been trying to take a shower daily, haven’t showered today though :P I have a hair appt on monday so I’m excited for that!
blogger / kiwi / 669 posts
You know what – these tips will also come in very handy postpartum. It is hard to make the effort once the baby is here, but it WILL help your mental state then too! You look great btw :)
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Love that top- you look fantastic!!! Great post
GOLD / nectarine / 2918 posts
I also got a hair cut right at the end since there was no telling when I would get one post-baby. You look great!
hostess / cantaloupe / 7209 posts
I have a hair appointment Saturday and a mani/pedi/wax/massage appointment on Monday! Can’t wait!
And I have already put your other fantastic tips into effect. I am so big and sweaty there is no way I can’t not shower, so even though I am not a lover of showers, I’ve taken one every single day lately no matter what.
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Looking great!! I’m 31 weeks and find that doing all the things you said definitely helps me feel my best! Showering and actually blow drying your hair is crucial :)
persimmon / 1462 posts
You look amazing Mama!
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@mrscheckers so true! My daily shower and minimal makeup application during maternity leave were crucial to my mental state. 9 months later, I’m totally okay with skipping a daily shower or two, but the night sweats, nursing and chaos of those early days really makes a shower your best friend.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 7420 posts
You look wonderful my fellow Nov mama!!!
olive / 71 posts
I am already in the big shirt and sweatpants rut at 34 weeks… (it doesn’t help that I work from home.) I will have to use these tips and dress myself up a little!
admin / honeydew / 8448 posts
you look great! any day now…. can’t wait! :)
blogger / papaya / 11641 posts
woohoo!! good luck!
pear / 1524 posts
I didn’t look nearly as put together as you do by the time I delivered (39 weeks). You do look great and I absolutely love how you’ve documented your belly shots. I did mine bare and now I wish I didn’t b/c I would never show anyone! LOL! Can’t wait to see your LO!
blogger / pear / 1778 posts
you look great!!!! i can’t wait to see you with your bebe in your arms SOON!
hostess / honeydew / 8974 posts
you look great mama! and i’m right there with you!!! got a mani/pedi last week, got a hair trim, been taking advantage of being off work and showering/doing my hair/putting my face on! :)
we’re so close!!!!
olive / 68 posts
This list is great for post partum too, I agree! I was a pedicure junkie my last weeks of pregnancy!
olive / 70 posts
I’m 38 weeks and I look like a slob. None of my maternity clothes fit me anymore and I wear yoga pants and the same two t-shirts, or my husband’s oversize shirts every day. I should have bought new clothes when I outgrew everything a few weeks ago, but I thought it wouldn’t be worth it because the baby would be here soon. (And I didn’t think she would grow sooo much in the last few weeks!)
GOLD / persimmon / 1029 posts
you look great! when i was going through a stressful time at work i started to try and cheer myself up by doing a full makeup routine even if i wasn’t in the mood at the time–little things like that can help!
GOLD / cantaloupe / 5001 posts
Thanks for the tips! I need these NOW at 28 weeks lol! I can’t skip a shower day, I feel disgusting all the time, especially in certain… areas.
blogger / olive / 83 posts
you look great! an inspiration to all of us… i hope i’m still drying my hair and wearing mascara at 40 weeks :)
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You look fantastic! I am 41 weeks today. Miss 2 is asleep and I have napped, washed hair and about to awkwardly paint my toes too! :)
blogger / apricot / 455 posts
You look fabulous!!!
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You look great! And everyone tells me as new advice to new mamas – don’t hide from the camera when the baby comes. You’ll be thankful to have them because you are beautiful and have a precious little one in your arms! Congrats :)