What to Expect For An Induction

I was induced for LeLe’s birth and I was scheduled for an induction for Little Bug’s birth, but I ended up going into labor early. I wrote this post a day before I went into labor.

My induction date is looming and I am trying to get mentally prepared for it. I am still hoping that this little guy will decide to come out of there sooner rather than having to be induced.

If I am dilated at all… I won’t know until the day before my induction is scheduled if I am dilated. My doctor thinks this is an unnecessary check because even if I am dilated today, it doesn’t really mean anything. I could stay dilated for another two weeks and not go into labor. However, if I am dilated at anything past a 1.5, my options open up a bit. Most doctors start with a cervical dilation medication which can be taken orally or vaginally. There are typically two options, Cytotec, also known as misoprostol. This is typically taken orally and can take some time to work. There have been some bad side effects from Cytotec so some women choose not to go this route. I will probably request to have Cervidil instead. Cervidil was created specifically for cervical dilation and is inserted vaginally to ripen the cervix. It also takes some time for it to work properly, but it is effective in most women. There is always the possibility that these will not work and at that point, your doctor will either declare a failed induction and send you home to try again in 48 hours, or you will move onto c-section.

Another option if you are dilated a bit is to start with Cytotec or Cervadil and also introduce a foley bulb into the cervix. This is a small balloon that is inserted into the cervix and filled with saline. The pressure from the balloon helps to stretch the cervix to 4 cm. Once you get to 4 cm, your water can be manually broken and that should kick start labor.

For me, I am expected to check in at 7:30 am and I will have to have one round of antibiotics immediately upon arrival due to a positive group B strep. They will start me on Cervadil (my request rather than Cytotec) and I will basically hang out for a couple of hours. My doctor would like to insert the foley bulb if I am at 2 cm or more. She thinks that because my body is already headed in that direction based on my contractions, I will be able to have the bulb inserted pretty soon after I get there.

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The First Year: A Marriage in Review

There’s no way to say it except directly: becoming parents has been the most challenging paradigm shift in my five-year marriage and nearly twelve-year relationship with my husband. Challenges in and of themselves aren’t necessarily negative, but they do require effort, focus, determination and, dang it, even a positive attitude, all of which are attributes that can be difficult to balance whilst sleep-deprived and learning to embrace an entirely new version of yourself. Which is all to say growing and changing as a person whilst your partner does too, and giving yourself and each other grace, is HARD.

In this past year, this first year of parenthood, I have learned how I handle heavy internal-personal, emotional-pressure, and how Mr. Milk responds to my response. I’ve had to admit that I suck as a human being at three in the morning (not my best self, as I like to say – giving myself grace, it’s a work in progress, people), and anything I say can and should NOT be held against me in the court of marriage.  I’ve felt, and seen the effects of, myself become softer around the edges – calmer, more loving, more patient, quicker to laugh. I’ve felt, and seen the effects of, guilt when all of the frustrations and lack of sleep prevent me from being this softer, kinder new version of myself, and know that I have the power to control my reaction, always. I’ve felt, and seen the effects of, my moods and current state of confidence hitting my husband hard in the face and challenging his notion of the person he married, the version of me he has held in his mind. So much positive, and so much hard, in that friends.


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Meeting Our Daughter

It’s hard to describe what it’s like meeting your daughter after watching her grow up through pictures over the last 17 months… It’s been about a month since we met our Lil’ Cowgirl and I’m still processing it and trying to wrap my head around all of the emotions and thoughts and feelings of that day. Since I’ll be returning to Korea to bring Lil’ CG home next week, I’m going to try my best to get my thoughts down before they completely escape me! I will say that when we first saw Lil’ CG walk through the doors of our adoption agency in Korea, my first thought was, “She’s real!” It was surreal seeing this little person we had gotten to know only through photos alive and in the flesh, walking around!

We had known from reports we received that Lil’ CG is sensitive and has a great deal of stranger anxiety. So we knew heading into our first meeting that it might not be all sunshine and rainbows. In fact, most of our meeting was faaaaaar from that. Lil’ CG actually arrived wearing sunglasses we sent her and she refused to take them off. In fact, she didn’t even want us to look at her. She cried upon seeing us and continued to cry for a good 45 minutes. Any time we tried to engage with her, she cried harder. It was so sad, and if she wasn’t so distraught, it would have almost been comical…almost.

Of course, it’s hard to watch any child cry, but when it’s a child you’ve been waiting for for well over a year, it’s heartbreaking. My heart broke for her little heart and hurt just thinking about how attached she is to her foster mother and how devastating it will be for Lil’ CG to leave her. We didn’t want to overwhelm Lil’ CG, but we did want and hope to make some kind of connection during our hour-long meeting. So, we just sat and played around her, goofing off with Lil’ CB and trying to slowly help her see that we were okay…

Thankfully, Lil’ CB (who leading up to this meeting was not so keen on gaining a sister) saved the day with his silliness and soccer skillz. Lil’ CG warmed up to Lil’ CB and was enthralled by her crazy big brother and wanted to join in and play with him. And Lil’ CB? Oh, goodness, my heart was bursting with pride watching him play with his new little sister, being gentle and so, so kind towards her.

Those last 15 minutes really redeemed the sadness and scariness of the majority of the meeting…we got to see some smiles, and even got some hugs and high fives! We stacked blocks together and somehow that quickly escalated into throwing blocks (?!), which we definitely wanted to put a stop to, but at the same time loved seeing her smiles as she threw blocks at the wall – haha!

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Ten Things I Miss from my “Old Life”

Let’s be honest – as much as I adore having Jackson and wouldn’t change a single thing about my life as a mom, there are certain things that you just can’t do as a parent (at least, as a parent of a toddler!).


I am obsessed with my little family, but things sure are different now! 

Here are a few things that I miss from my life before Jackson:

1. Reading. I used to be a voracious reader. The year before I had Jackson, I averaged reading more than a book a week – well over 50 books in the course of a year. But now? I don’t think I’ve actually finished a book longer than The Pout Pout Fish in months. Some of it is just shifting priorities – I’d rather spend my (very little) down time hanging with Mr. Garland or blogging than reading, but I sincerely miss my books! I have started to read a bit in the evenings again, but it’s still almost impossible to finish a book – I think as Jackson gets older I’ll probably find time to do this again, but for now I miss my quality time with my Kindle!

2. Sleeping in. I know, obviously. Sleep is a huge sacrifice when you have kids. Jackson has always been a fantastic sleeper, but he still wakes up early! I miss the ability to sleep in (which for me, really means 8:30 or so – I’m not asking for much!) and then lay around in bed for a while before getting up. Now as soon as I hear his little voice over the monitor it’s time to go! go! go!

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Postpartum 101

Before I had Drake, I remember wondering a lot about labor and delivery: what does a contraction actually feel like; will I really be screaming my head off like one of those women in the movies; what is the “ring of fire” and “urge to push.” Luckily there are a myriad of resources that document birth, from classes to online birth stories to talking to your friends, mothers, and doctors. After I had Drake though, I was thrown into a whole new world of postpartum and realized that while I had an inkling about birth, no one ever mentioned the things that happen after you deliver a child. I found myself constantly googling questions on my phone late at night as I nursed. Is this normal? Why is this happening? It seems like everyone shares all the things you’ll experience while having a child, but then communication seems to die down after that child arrives. So I thought it might be nice to share some things I learned after having three babies.

Shakes – The biggest thing I remember after having Juliet was the shakes. I actually never experienced that with Drake so I wasn’t expecting it to happen, but shortly after having Juliet my entire body started having tremors. I couldn’t stop it. I felt fine, but my body was just convulsing uncontrollably. The nurses told me it was normal and had to do with the large loss of blood after delivery. I remember my teeth chattering as I was shaking so hard, even though I wasn’t particularly cold. I was shaking for about an hour until it eventually died down. Interestingly enough it didn’t happen after I delivered Fiona even though I was waiting for it so this might not happen to you, but if it does, know it’s most likely normal.

Nurse Check Ins – Once you check in to your room postpartum, the nurse will do a blood pressure and temperature check on you, as well as a temperature check on the baby. This will continue every 4 hours while you remain in the hospital, so expect to be woken up even in the middle of the night for them to do their assessments.

The medical kit – The hospital provides you with an arsenal of items to help you deal with the swelling and pain you will undoubtedly experience in your lower regions. The items in my hospital included mesh underwear, a peri bottle to help keep the area clean (vs wiping and irritating it more), an instant ice pad that you crack in half to activate, Tucks pads, cream, and a numbing spray. It’s a bit of a regiment to keep up with, but it helps to heal that area and within a few days you usually don’t need to use all of the items anymore. Make sure to stock up on supplies before you go home, though you can easily pick up most of the items at the local pharmacy as well.

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Homemade Nut Milk

Homemade Nut Milk l Hellobee

99% of me is sure I’m doing you a favor by sharing this easy tutorial on how to make nut milk at home. That nagging 1% I can attribute to this: Once you try homemade nut milk, you will be forever ruined for store bought. The flavors are more refreshing and customizable, the mouthfeel is far more pleasant, and price is comparable or even better, depending on which nuts you use and whether you have access to bulk. Plus, if it’s important to you to minimize your consumption of preservatives or artificial ingredients, you can feel good knowing exactly what went into your milk.

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14 Functional and Stylish Fall and Winter Maternity Coats

Ah! Winter talk! Run and hide, RUN AND HIDE! It was hard for me to type the word, probably as hard as it was for you to read it. But it’s going to come eventually and it’s always less painful if you are fully prepared.

I gathered up the best fall and a few winter maternity coats for this season, since I know it’s difficult to find coats when you are pregnant, let alone good functional stylish ones. So here you go – fourteen ways to keep your bump stylish and cozy warm!

hellobee_fall winter maternity coats

no.1 quilted parka (thyme) – no.2 light weight parka (asos) – no.3 poncho wrap (old navy) – no.4 removable panel quilted coat (next direct) – no.5 jean jacket (thyme) – no.6 trench coat (the gap) – no.7 military wool coat (isabella oliver) – no.8 quilted all black parka (h&m) – no.9 removal panel parka (the m coat) – no.10 fur collar wrap coat (newlook) – no.11 swing coat (hatch) – no.12 blazer (isabella oliver) – no.13 wrap coat (isabella oliver) – no.14 black parka (h&m)

Depending on where you are in your 9 months of baby growing, you might want to stick with coats/jackets that can be layered to work as the weather gets colder. Whatever your need I’m just gonna throw out my ideas for layering some of these coats, since it would be the perfect way to transition before moving into a full fledged winter (ah!) coat.

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